Often we find ourselves caught in a pattern with our loved ones in which we don't feel heard and misunderstood which leads to hurt, pain and saddness. We are then triggered by insignificant things and arguing about the dumbest things. It feels like we're caught in an never ending merry-go-round and don't know how when we got on or how to get off. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy looks at this pattern and expores the hurts that keep us stuck in this cycle which prevents us from being truly vulnerable with our partner so that we can experience the loving connection we so desperately desire.
“Distressed partners no longer see each other as their emotional safe haven. Our lover is supposed to be the one person we can count on who will always respond. Instead, unhappy partners feel emotionally deprived, rejected, even abandoned. In that light, couples’ conflicts assume their true meaning: they are frightened protests against eroding connection and a demand for emotional reengagement.”
Sue Johnson, Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
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